Friday, November 30, 2007

13 Weeks

Thirteen weeks ago today, as the summer drew to a close, JT broke his leg. Today, the final cast was removed. We both feel lighter tonight.

The drive to JT's doctor's office follows the path of the Raritan River in western New Jersey. When we first went to Dr. T's office, it was a drive through the green woods, thick with foliage. The air outside was still warm; warm enough for the air conditioner in the car. JT carried his leg and its new white cast gingerly, suddenly dependent on me in a way he hadn't been for the last few years. We were both learning to manage the crutches and the immobility of a broken leg. The prospect of weeks and weeks with his leg in a cast hung heavy in the humid air.

Four weeks later, autumn was starting to emerge. The weather had cooled enough to roll down the windows as we drove through the woods. The trees were still heavy with green foliage now preparing to turn. By then, JT was a whiz with his crutches, swinging himself out of the car before I could get to his side. The four-week-old white cast was showing the wear of life with a seven year old; the heel had unraveled and it had a funky smell. The cast was removed for x-rays that afternoon. The bones were healing. That Friday, we left the doctor's office with a new bright red walking cast around his leg. It was solid and heavy to protect his fragile healing bones.

Another four weeks passed and as we drove to the doctor, the trees along the river were vibrantly red, yellow, and orange. The woods were cool now, preparing for the coming cold. We both had on long sleeves and JT had exchanged his shorts for long pants. The heavy red cast had served its purpose and was – literally – ripe. It was removed for yet another set of x-rays. This time, he received an air cast. Now we could see his knee. The removable cast led to greater mobility. And, for the first time in 8 weeks, JT could bathe without the hassle of wrapping his leg in heavy blue plastic. That night, he positively luxuriated in the bathtub, soaking for nearly two hours.

Five weeks later, this afternoon we once again headed through the woods in Flemington. The trees have lost their leaves and we could see the ducks skimming along the river. The air cast has been coming off for bathing and the occasional leg stretch and he confidently removed it to show off his healing leg. The x-ray once again brought good news. The tibia has healed and it takes a careful eye to see where the breaks once were. The air cast has done its service and is no longer necessary. As JT slipped a sneaker on his foot, a foot that hasn't worn a sneaker in 13 weeks, he announced to his healed leg, "you're back in business."

There are some restrictions remaining ----- no jumping, running, or pivoting for another 4 weeks. Dr. T says this might be harder than we think ------ boys like to try out their new bones, she says. But we plan to take it easy until that final x-ray informs us that the healing really is complete.

Thirteen weeks ago, on the second night after he broke his leg, JT and I both cried ourselves to sleep. That night, as JT found the pain unbearable and I tended him alone, I felt unlucky and afraid. I was scared for my boy and frightened for us. In my first year as a single mama, I had come to depend on his independence. The cast altered that. He could no longer dress himself or get up and down the stairs. Bathing was a chore. It took two trips to get things to the car for school. I was overwhelmed. But I should have remembered what a remarkable child my son is. He took it all in stride and demonstrated a resilience and patience that I will admire for the rest of my life. Slowly, but surely, JT regained his independence and his ability to move around. We adjusted to the new demands. We even came to make jokes about the broken leg. Tonight, I realize that like the new bone growth in his leg, we two are stronger than ever.

Thursday, November 29, 2007

Did I Win?

Please see the grilled cheese update posted at the original posting.

Did I win?

I didn't just win, I grilled them.

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Real Life Conversations at School: Dining Advice

The backstory: My 6th period class (seniors) is returning from a lunch outing. A student is being teased for having eaten all of the pizza crusts while out to lunch. He defends himself.......

T: Of course I ate the crusts. It's like Native Americans with the buffalo.......you don't waste any of the pizza.

Advice to live by.

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Grilled Cheese Duke Out


Last week, a student in my 3rd period class suggested that he makes the best grilled cheese sandwiches ever. Never one to shirk the prospect of competition, I took issue with his claim, suggesting that in a grilled cheese contest, I would win.

And thus was born our grilled cheese showdown. Three students and I competed. When I went to work, one student announced that I cook like a mom (good to know). And just the specter of high school boys cooking made my day. Lest you worry, there was a curriculum tie-in: we voted on the best grilled cheese, using a three different ballots, to illustrate the power of choice and the framing of that choice.

But all of that is just so much academic nonsense, as far the class was concerned. Today was about the cheese.


Update: The ballots have not been counted, as I am saving that for an in-class exercise. It will likely be completed tomorrow and I will post the results. No hanging chads or voter fraud issues, just that old enemy of teachers everywhere: not enough time.

Also, seriously, how could you doubt that I would kick some booty? This is truly my sort of contest.

Update II:Update: We used three ballots to choose our grilled cheese winner. Ballot #1 asked voters to select 1 winner from 4 candidates; Ballot #2 asked voters to select 2 winners from the list of 4 candidates; and Ballot #3 asked voters to rank the candidates in order of voter preference.

I'm happy to say that I won all three ballots..........though to be fair, I've been making grilled cheese sandwiches longer than these children have been alive. I'd have no excuse if I had lost.

Monday, November 26, 2007

Real Life Conversations with JT: Lunch Box edition

The backstory: my son, god bless his little brown head, is the world's pickiest eater. Basically, his food preferences boil down to the childhood trifecta: pizza, chicken fingers, and spaghetti. It's a diet bound to cause scurvy but he doesn't care. The situation being what it is, it's hard to pack the child lunch. But I persevere because, well.......there's no one else around to handle this particular task and he and I both feel the need to pretend he eats food and doesn't just live on kitchen fumes.

Lately, his lunch box contains a bottle of water, a piece of fruit (the same piece can be recycled all week long......he'll never eat it), a fruit roll-up, yogurt, homemade boursin cheese with crackers (JT calls it white cheese), and some sort of dessert. The crackers and cheese are usually a hit and, since I make it with cream cheese, I like to believe that this means he is getting some dairy food in his diet. Things are that bad.

Today, the cheese and crackers came home uneaten. I started an investigation.

Mama: Sweetie, why didn't you eat your white cheese and crackers?

JT: The crackers looked different.
Note: The crackers were different than the ones I packed last week..........though they are a brand he has eaten for most all of his life; it's not like I was trying some sort of undercover move to get health food into his belly.

Mama: Did you try the crackers?

JT: Noooooooooooooooooooooo (said in a tone of voice which suggested that the ziploc bag may have contained crackers or might very well have had crushed glass but either way it wasn't going to pass by his lips).

I give up.

Sunday, November 25, 2007

America in Decline


Microwave popcorn is a frequent after-school snack at Sassafras House. It's quick to make and goes well with a side of second grade homework. The other afternoon, as the popcorn popped, I had a look at the box that it came in.

As you can clearly see, the box reads "Pops up Faster." Has America been languishing for hours in front of the microwave, waiting for its freshly popped corn? Was waiting 4 minutes for microwave popcorn costing us endless hours of national productivity time? How long did America wait for a solution to this pressing national crisis?

Seriously? When we no longer can find the time to wait 4 minutes for a bag of microwave popcorn, we deserve the fate that we get. That's all I'm saying.

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Misspent Youth

I spend my days in teenage America, and I enjoy their company. The teens I'm with are an admittedly elite crowd ----- prep school students ----- and I'm always surprised when I see teens misbehaving or otherwise seeming threatening, because that's not really the behavior of the teenagers with whom I'm acquainted.

But many teens do seem threatening, even for those of us who routinely look beyond the whacked out haircuts, skimpy clothes, multiple piercings and such. In fact, I often find myself asking (rhetorically, of course), "where are their parents?" I did not have a misspent youth; mostly I didn't think of mis-spending my youth because my parents had rules and expectations and I didn't want to disappoint them or the other adults in my life. Within limits, they treated me like the adult that I was becoming. Within limits, I behaved myself (we'll just go ahead and forget about those times I ditched class in the 12th grade). I cut up in college, of course, but I generally avoided big trouble. The prompt "misspent youth" from Sunday Scribblings has set me to thinking about how it is that young people successfully transition to adulthood.

Now that I am with teens all the time, I see the need that young people have to be rebellious. How else is a teen to establish a sense of sovereignty but to draw boundaries ---- both stark and small---- between the lives of her parents and her own burgeoning independence? I want to be sure that the young people I know can exercise their independence in a way that gives them freedom without courting danger (or at least not too much danger). I want them to appreciate the adults in their lives, not rebel against them just for the sake of rebelling.

For that reason, I treat my students seriously. Their hopes and dreams must be given succor, not dismissed or laughed at. The adults in my world who took me seriously ensured that I took myself seriously as I made the transition to adulthood. And now I'm doing my part to keep that cycle going, so that the teenagers in my world find that I give them the room to maneuver and express their independence. I want them to safely express their youth, and to take the risks that lead to a happy adulthood.

Friday, November 23, 2007

Thanksgiving Leftovers?

The Thanksgiving holiday signals the eating season, and so I think the day calls for another recipe. This time, it's to help you with all those leftovers in your fridge.

Though my status as a citizen will surely be reviewed once I admit it, I'm not a big fan of turkey. Neither am I a big fan of wasted food. So roasting a big ole' turkey and dealing with the leftovers is just not my idea of Thanksgiving fun. This year, I avoided the whole turkey. I know what you're thinking, but no one at my house went hungry. There was ham, corn muffins and biscuits (homemade!), corn, green bean casserole, cornbread dressing, whipped sweet potatoes (don't get me started on the apostasy that is baked sweet potatoes with marshmallows), fresh cranberry sauce (no cans at my house), macaroni and cheese, cherry pie with vanilla ice cream, and potato soufflé. The soufflé is made with mashed potatoes, which might very well be sitting in the fridge at your house. Don't just heat up those leftover potatoes in the microwave (I'm talking to you, KO). Make something really yummy with them.

Potato Soufflé
(also known as Yummy Potatoes........thanks for the recipe, Mom)

2 cups of hot mashed potatoes
1 package of cream cheese, softened
1 small chopped onion
2 eggs, beaten
2 tablespoons flour
salt & pepper to taste
1 can french fried onions (6 ounce size)

Get out the mixer and whip together everything but the french fried onions. Gently mix those in and then put the whole mess into a greased baking dish. Bake for 35 minutes at 350 degrees.



Happy eating!

Update: I've just received a call from the Sassafras Sister........she's a bit bent out of shape because it would seem that the recipe for the potatoes listed above is sourced to her husband (known around here as Uncle M). So apologies to Uncle M for not giving him the credit that he is due, not just for the potato recipe but also for putting up with the Sassafras Family in the first place. Take a bow, Uncle M. You've earned it.

Thursday, November 22, 2007

Happy Thanksgiving


In honor of the holiday, I'm posting one of the recipes that makes my family's holiday table a special place. I make two batches of corn muffins for Thanksgiving ---- one for breaking up and turning into cornbread dressing (I make that batch the night before). And the second is for eating with Thanksgiving supper.

Stacy's Corn Muffins
1 ¼ cup flour
¾ cup corn meal ----- I use yellow corn meal, but white is also fine
¼ cup plus 2 tablespoons white sugar
2 tsp baking powder
½ tsp salt
1 cup low fat milk (I use 1%; non-fat also works well)
¼ cup vegetable oil
1 egg, beaten

Heat oven to 400 degrees. Grease a muffin tin (the recipe will make 9 small muffins or 6 large muffins) or an 8 or 9-inch pan if you prefer corn bread. Combine dry ingredients in a bowl. Stir in milk, oil, and egg, mixing just until dry ingredients are moistened. Pour batter into prepared pan. Bake 20 to 25 minutes, until the edges of the bread are turning slightly brown and a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean.

Serve with plenty of butter and honey.

Happy eating and happy Thanksgiving!

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Not Quite Jersey Born, but Clearly Jersey Bred

Note to non-Jersey readers: E-Z Pass is an electronic system to pay tolls on the NJ Turnpike and other toll-roads and bridge crossings up and down the east coast. You can see an E-Z Pass in the window of many cars in New Jersey and I have one in the window of my trusty steed.

Today, JT was playing in his playroom, with his pirate ships lined up to cross under a bridge to the other side of the playroom. But there is a delay he tells me..........it would seem that one of the pirate captains does not have his E-Z Pass on board the ship.

The boy has been in New Jersey too long.