Showing posts with label California. Show all posts
Showing posts with label California. Show all posts

Monday, July 10, 2023

Style Journal: My Summer Shoe of Choice

 I love flip flops.  

I know that love is a big word and I mean every bit of it.  Between-the-toe flip flop sandals (known to me as “thongs” when I was a child...and that word is a story for another day) are literally a source of never-ending joy to me.  Everything about them is splendid - the way they are casual; the way that they ensure my feet get maximum sunlight and outdoor space; the fact that they are so easy to slip on, the way they stay on as because of the toe post…I could go on and on.  

I wear them all year, though in Winter I only wear them inside.  Come warmer weather - and for me that is any day forecast to bring temperatures over 60 - I wear them indoors and outdoors for as much time as possible.  In the Summer, they are my style of choice and my diverse collection ensures that I am have a pair that match every outfit I choose to wear.  And in my estimation, that is the very definition of happiness.   




Saturday, December 24, 2022

Home'ish

I’ve come with JT to California for Christmas, to spend time with my family and to try something different as I am once again single at age 55.  Clovis feels like home in some ways —— my family; places and scenery that I recognize; stories and jokes that are familiar.  The neighborhoods where my family lives are all new but the tidy rows of new homes look familiar to me, even if they aren’t the neighborhoods I grew up in.  I find such streets comforting; the newest blocks of them tidy and matching in a Disney sort of fashion that I find charming.

I had forgotten the way holiday lights look in the misty fog, but the  sight is familiar from my childhood and it stills retains its magic all these years later.  I love the holidays and the traditions, even those that are different from my own, and I’m glad to feel included.  I’m thinking about the hard parts of 2022 - there were a lot of them - and the gratitude I feel now, as the year ends.  I’m thinking about the coming of 2023, not bringing expectations to that prospect, but with a reminder to be gentle and kind toward myself as I see what the universe brings for me.

There’s a blessing to be found in that, as I am in my hometown at peace.  Clovis is a world that often felt foreign to me when I was growing up here, where I didn’t often feel welcome or a part of it.  I feel at home with myself now and that is enough, good, even.  I am grateful to be here and look forward with confidence that I always manage to locate hope when I need it.

Sunday, December 31, 2017

December 31 Book Report: When the Emperor Was Divine

I remember the moment when I first learned about the Holocaust.  I was nine years old and in the 4th grade when I picked up The Diary of Anne Frank to read.  At the end of the story, my copy of the book had an explanation of the Holocaust and what had happened to Anne.  Until then, I had not known about the Holocaust.  I finished that book sitting on the front steps of our house and I can still recall the wave of nausea that overwhelmed me when I learned about the Holocaust that first time.

In the 5th grade, at the age of ten, I learned about slavery.  Again, it was reading that informed me.  I was reading through the biography section at Weldon Elementary School when I came upon the autobiography of George Washington Carver.  That story explained that Carver had been born into slavery.  I knew what the word meant but it was with the help of the school librarian, Mrs. Maldonado, that I came to actually understand slavery in the United States.  I was profoundly disappointed in my country.

When I was fifteen I was in a debate contest in the 10th grade when I first learned about South Africa and its apartheid policies.  I can still see that room and remember my horror that it was 1983, that such policies were still accepted in the world, and that I had not known of this.

These memories came to mind as I read Julie Otsuka’s story of Japanese-American internment in the United States during World War II.  I don’t remember when I first learned what happened to the Japanese during the war.  That lack of a moment of recognition seems embarrassing now, but as Otsuka’s novel makes clear, the story of Japanese internment during World War II has long been a tale of shamed silence.  


Otsuka’s novel is a narrative story of a Japanese family from Berkeley, California, rounded up at the outset of the war.  The family members go un-named throughout the novel and we know them just as the mother, the daughter, the son, and the father.  They live in different camps during the period of internment, the father arrested first and then detained in a series of camps along the border with Mexico.  The mother and her children are rounded up in 1942 and are eventually sent to the Utah dessert for just over three years.  The family remains separated for the duration of the war.

The story is told from various points of view: the mother, the tween daughter, the young son.  Each reflects on the fear and confusion of the time period.  The mother has a simmering anger that never really emerges.  The daughter’s defiance is internalized; the son’s reflections are painful and sad.  Each is silent in their own way, dissenting inside and perhaps seemingly never with one another, aware at all times that their loyalty as “Americans” is suspect.  They are together but profoundly lonely in their fear and confusion.  Aware at every juncture of how much they have already lost, they are always aware of how much more they stand to lose.  

The story of this family is lonely and isolated.  Over 110,000 Japanese-Americas were interned during the war and that’s a lot of lonely people together., bound by their identity and their fear but alone nonetheless.  For most of the novel, the characters show an angry passivity, fear restricting their response to the circumstances in which they have been placed.  Only in the final chapter does the reader experience the anger that interned Japanese must have felt.  But here as well the anger is alone, with no place to go.

The novel is a powerful read, one that will linger long after I turned the last page.  In a year when so much of my nation disappointed me, this story was a timely reminder that we’ve never been perfect or, perhaps, even great.  

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

My Hometown

I am a regular reader of Cup of Jo and this post about hometowns got me thinking about my hometown, Clovis, California.  I left Clovis for college in 1985 (!) and though I came back for a few summers, I never lived there full time again.  I visit most years and now I have fond feelings about Clovis.  The Cup of Post got me thinking about the things I miss about my hometown and so I present, in no particular order, the things I miss about Clovis:

1.  Swimming pools.  We had one growing up and thanks to the summer heat, many other people also have pools.  From an airplane, the pools are so plentiful that it looks like everyone has a tiny postage stamp of blue in their backyard.  

2.  The many months of flip flop weather.  See pools, above…

3.  Mexican food in delicious abundance.

4.  My sister, who lives and works in our hometown, always makes me laugh, and is one of the strongest women I know.  I would love to hang out with her on a Friday night after a long work week.  

5.  My parents, who love their town.

6.  The green “Clovis Gateway to the Sierras” sign that hangs in the downtown.  I always enjoy a glimpse when I visit.


Thinking about what I miss from my hometown has me thinking about the things I liked in other places I’ve lived and that’s been a pleasing stroll down memory lane.

Sunday, August 07, 2016

Good Morning, California

I haven’t always been a morning person, but for the last 10 years of my life morning has become my favorite time of day.  I love it for the quiet.  When the sun has just risen and the birds are chirping, there is a sense of promise in the day ahead.  I enjoy that potential and I especially enjoy a leisurely morning.


In the heat of summer, mornings outside are especially tempting because they are cool even as the bright sunlight takes hold. 


I’m in California this morning; tomorrow we wing our way home to New Jersey.  I am sitting with my favorite coffee mug on my parent’s back patio.  I hear the waterfall and the sound of doves, the voices of my parents and T visiting inside the house as the temperamental cat comes in and out the door.  I can see the lime and lemon trees, heavy with fruit across the green lawn.  For just a moment I wish for the time to hold still like the quiet of the morning.


Tuesday, August 11, 2015

In Driest California

The alternative title to this post should be drought-shaming because that’s what I am about to do.  Folks in  my hometown are under orders to cut their water consumption by 1/3 of the level used in 2011.  Trees and shrubs may be watered twice a week according to a set schedule but lawns are to be left to their own devices.  You can see the stress of conditions every where you look.


Penalties for round one of non-compliance is a $25 fee in a household’s two month bill.  A second round of non-compliance raises the fee to $50.  There are water police who patrol for runoff and they also issue fines.  In short, community measures are in place to conserve water.

My family is doing their best to conserve water , though it’s awfully difficult to cut back that much if you’ve always been careful of consumption, which we generally have.    Around town, you can see evidence of folks who are doing their best to avoid watering their yards.  Some folks have even undertaken drought-friendly landscaping, as seen here.



And here, where artificial turf fills in limited space and provides the illusion of lush grass.


But some folks have clearly ignored the instructions all together.  They embrace the fee and water at their leisure.




And so you have folks who’ve followed instructions, taken care, and have yards struggling in the heat.




And in the same neighborhood are people who are clearly not worried about fines, let alone taking up their share of responsible water management.  Sometimes, the guilty parties live right next door to those who are following the rules.  You’d think that would make for awkward neighborhood block parties.




There are plenty of folks who have planted grass that is far too water-demanding for the arid and hot climate that prevails in the San Joaquin Valley.


This the part of drought-stricken California that you hear about the most; the area where agricultural fields lie fallow and some communities have no water left.  It would seem some of the folks who live here aren’t worried about the changing climate’s water shortages.  More troubling than that is my sense that the burden of this drought isn’t being borne by a community in solidarity.


Monday, July 21, 2014

On the Pleasures of a Simple Taco


I made chicken tacos for Sunday afternoon’s early supper.  I’ve been making tacos in my kitchen for more than 20 years and the familiar steps of simmering the chicken, grating the cheese, chopping and stirring together the salsa, and preparing the refritos and rice is something I now cook entirely from memory.

As I was pulling Sunday’s supper together, I started to think about all the ways that tacos have featured in my life.  Growing up, it was my favorite supper.  It was always the best school lunch as well.  In the fourth grade, when our brand new house caught on fire, it was the oil my mom was heating to fry taco shells that was to blame.  Tacos were the last homemade supper my mother made before I moved away to college.  When I moved from California to Tennessee, standing in the bread aisle looking for tortillas showed me just how far from home I had travelled.  Turns out that in the rest of America, tortillas aren’t in such high demand, so they stay in the refrigerated section.  Over the years that I have been away from California, I've turned looking for authentic Mexican ingredients into a high art.  

These days, many of my favorite Mexican food ingredients are available locally, thanks to New Jersey’s diversity.   There's a supply of fresh cilantro and loads of chiles in the produce section; tortillas can be found with the rest of the Mexican ingredients and aren't in a refrigerated case.  And homemade tacos are still my favorite meal; they still taste like home.  


Monday, May 05, 2014

Cinco de Mayo

When I was in elementary school, the school marked Cinco de Mayo by having the local high school’s Mariachi dancers come to visit.  They wore colorful clothes and danced and sang Mexican songs.  The festivities would be topped off by taco day in the cafeteria.  Let me note for the record that tacos at Weldon Elementary School in Clovis were worth your time.  I remember the day as a celebration of Latino culture and the the diversity of my home state.

These days I live on the East Coast and Cinco de Mayo is more of a bar holiday than it is an actual celebration of cultural diversity.  But in my world, it still features tacos.   Mine are chicken tacos (I use a Diana Kennedy recipe)  and I add some homemade salsa and guacamole.  JT put 7 tacos into his hungry belly and announced that it’s a good thing to have a mama from California.


Indeed!

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Zinnia Season

It's August, and that means that the fresh-cut zinnia season is fully upon us.
The bouquet on the right is made in a milk bottle from Rosa Brothers Dairy, a Hanford, California, dairy that didn't get its deposit back on this bottle.  My sister gave it to me when I was in California because she knows how I like that sort of thing.  That's happy!

Thursday, August 08, 2013

The Boys

I made several efforts to make a picture of JT with his cousins during our visit.  The boys complained about these efforts, as if it would detract from their busy schedule of watching the telly, playing video games, eating truckloads of food, or swimming in the pool at KO's house.
Since they were born eight weeks apart thirteen years ago, we have referred to JT and S as the "little boys" (to be distinguished from C, the two-years-older "big boy").   You can't quite see it here, but the youngest of the boys, tiny little S on the right, is also the tallest, at 6 foot 2 (and has probably grown since this picture was made three days ago).
JT, a puny 5 foot 7, loves these boys.  His first act upon returning home last night was to sent S an instant message about their fantasy football league.  I'm grateful that the 2000 miles between them seems like nothing to fret about; a mere detail in a world of easy travel and instant messaging.

Monday, August 05, 2013

The Good, the Bad, and the Dried Out

In my New Jersey world, winter is the season of dry skin.  As the cold comes in and heated indoors become the norm, my skin slowly dries out.  Then, as winter settles upon us, my skin cracks and feels unpleasant.  Around that time, I start to demand that I be dipped in a vat of warm lotion.  I am not kidding.

Summers are better, at least as far as my dry skin is concerned.  The humidity keeps the air moist and my skin is more supple and soft.  But there is an unpleasant side effect:  humid heat finds me sweating, often unpleasantly.  If there was an Olympics of sweating, I would be a contender. I know what you're thinking, Internet, and yes I am prone to hyperbole.  But not on this matter.  Don't be jealous.

Trips to California in August largely cure the sweating.  It's hot here, but there is no humidity and I find it surprisingly pleasant.  Or at least it is pleasant until the dry skin returns with a ceiling-fan-driven vengeance.  Within 3 days, my skin is feeling dry and crackling and my eyes are bulging dry, thanks to the ceiling fans that are everywhere.

Normal people seem to fare just fine in these conditions, but I must face the sad fact that I have not evolved enough to live peaceably in the modern ceiling fan world.  Well, not without a vat of lotion at hand.  Sigh.

Friday, August 24, 2012

Food Friday: California Dreamin'

If I have my way, I'm in California less than 24 hours before I score a cheese enchilada.  I love good Mexican food and no place has more of it than the Golden State.  Alas, I make my home in the Garden State and while there is some good food here, there is no homestyle Mexican food that can hope to compete with California.  So I improvise and make my own.

The arrival of garden tomato abundance has really helped me along on that front.  The other day I took a look at all those fresh tomatoes and decided it was time for some salsa fresca.  It's a friendly recipe because you can make as much (or as little) as you need.  I made enough for about one and a half cups of chopped salsa.  I used mine to season a quesadilla, which is standard fare around Sassafras House.  

The salsa ingredients were easily collected. Note: if I were in California, that lime would have been home-grown.
Here's what you need:
1 cup tomato, chopped fine and seeded (this removes excess liquid)
1/4 cup chopped onion
1/4 cup cilantro, chopped
1 tablespoon chopped jalapeno
1/4 teaspoon salt
squirt of lime
After you've placed all the ingredients in a bowl, stir them together.  
The salsa is tasty with chips on its own but is also a nice addition to a basic quesadilla.  For that you need a large flour tortilla and some freshly grated Monterey Jack cheese.   I make mine by briefly heating both sides of the tortilla on medium heat.  For this version, I layered in some cheese, a spread of the salsa fresca I had just stirred up, and then a bit more cheese.  
Fold it in half and cook until the cheese is melted around the salsa (it should take about 3 minutes on medium heat).  
Flip it over and cook the other side for about 2 minutes.
Let it sit for a minute then slice it in half and serve up the melted goodness.
Quesadillas and salsa are comfort food in my world and the next best thing to being in my home state.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

In the Family Gardens

My interest in gardening comes from my dad, who has always planted a garden.   My own garden planting always features lots of planting conversations with him.   I enjoy seeing what he has planted every year.
Though I probably didn't appreciate it enough when I lived there, my annual California visits these day feature me quizzing my dad about the plants that grow in the central valley.  My Dad's garden has some things that I can only dream of planting, like this lime tree.
Dad's garden also makes clear where I come by my fondness for trailing ivy.
Dad's got a lot more tomatoes that I have (perhaps he'd welcome my possum?).
And the peppers look terrific.
Though he's always got one growing complaint or another (I've never met a gardener who is perfectly satisfied), my dad's garden is really impressive this year.
A few blocks away, my brother-in-law, Uncle M, opted for flowers in his yard. He's got some lovely rosebushes along the back wall of his garden.

He's also trained peach trees to grow against the fence, making the best of his limited growing space.  It's really an ingenious solution.
I came home inspired to get back into my garden.  Today, I'm planting another rosemary plant, which will come in handy for fall cooking (and eating!) projects.  I'm also pulling out the sugar snap peas, which have finished their growing season.  I'll replace them with beets and carrots for a late fall harvest.  There are plenty of tomatoes still to come.  There is more gardening to enjoy before fall frosts arrive and that's a most happy thing.

Saturday, August 11, 2012

Grand and Great

When I went away to college, my grandmother and I began to exchange letters.  We wrote often and I have a box full of those letters.  My favorite one of those was written in April 2000, just after my nephew S was born.  I had my own small baby by then and in the course of just 8 weeks, my grandmother had tripled her number of great-grandsons.  In her letter that April, my grandmother wrote that she had seen the new baby and that he was healthy and lovely.  At that point, with three great-grandsons, she was a very proud great-grandmother and she wrote to me, "my cup overfloweth with little boys."

She wasn't the overly sentimental type and it was such a sweet thought that I saved the letter.  In subsequent years, the letter has been doubly special to me because later that year, and quite unexpectedly, my grandmother passed away.  So she never got to meet great-grandchild number four, a girl born to my cousin and his wife nearly six years ago.  They came to visit while JT and I were in California so I got a picture of the great-grandkids together.
I think that my grandmother would have been most proud of these four.  

Wednesday, August 08, 2012

Cousins!

This morning finds us winging our way back East.  The good news is that we will escape the heat (my hometown is forecast to be 110 degrees by Friday….roughly the temperature of hell).  The bad news is that we'll miss out on more scenes like these.
S likes to mug for the camera, but I caught a a few shots of his winning smile.
Pool basketball seems to regularly feature the two 12 year olds making a valiant effort against C, who deals them defeat nearly every time.
Murphy the dog is no fool; he knows how to escape the heat.
There's always next summer.  See you around, California.


Thursday, August 11, 2011

Yosemite

Among my most cherished childhood memories are the times my parents brought my sister and me to Yosemite.  I grew up in a town less than two hours from the gate to the park entrance; we visited often.  We came to the park so often that view from the first lookout after the tunnel on Highway 41 is forever in my memory.   And the smell of Yosemite is as familiar today as it was when I was a little girl.  Even so, it was nice to see that the view (albeit a bit hazy from a controlled burn in the park) is as timeless as ever.
Yosemite was on my agenda for this year's trip to California.  I hadn't been in years; JT had never seen the park. So Monday, KO loaded up the fun bus with a picnic and we set off on a family trip.  After years of some very dry summers,  this August the forest remains lush and the waterfalls are still impressive.
Here is an up close shot of Bridalveil Falls.  We could feel the mist from the falls on our face as we walked up to the base of the falls. 
Pictured here is Yosemite Falls, the tallest waterfall in the United States.
My sister got married in the chapel below. 
The view from the front step of the chapel is amazing.
I've made countless pictures in the park, but none are as pleasing to me as this photo of JT, his cousins, and the folks who introduced me to Yosemite so many years ago.